What is your role as a friend when a close couple-friend breaks up or divorces? CNN.com ran an article today addressing this problem, primarily in the boyfriend/girlfriend break-up scenario. However, much of the advice applies to divorcing couples.

What should you do when you’re friends with both parties? Where should your loyalties lie, and how can you avoid alienating either member of the couple? Sometimes distancing yourself from one or both until tension eases is a good solution. Sometimes buying the first round of drinks for the first-in line-first in time (a/k/a “I knew you first”) friend is the trick. Whatever route you take, remember if there are children involved keep them protected. Make sure that any discussions regarding the other spouse/party is done outside the earshot (preferrably home) of the children.